{"id":893,"date":"2025-03-22T12:23:30","date_gmt":"2025-03-22T12:23:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/?p=893"},"modified":"2025-03-22T12:33:26","modified_gmt":"2025-03-22T12:33:26","slug":"first-message-what-to-say-and-what-not-to-say-when-matching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/first-message-what-to-say-and-what-not-to-say-when-matching\/","title":{"rendered":"First Message: What to Say (and What Not to Say) When Matching"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>Got a match? Now is the time to shine in the conversation. Here\u2019s how to get it right from the start and avoid the famous \u201cvacuum\u201d.<\/h2>\n<h3>Introduction<\/h3>\n<p>You swiped, matched, and now what? The first message is the key moment to turning that match into a real conversation. And believe me: starting off well can make all the difference between a conversation that gets going and one that dies right there.<\/p>\n<p>In this article, you will discover <strong>what works (and what doesn&#039;t)<\/strong> when starting a conversation on dating apps.<\/p>\n<h3>What NOT to say in the first message<\/h3>\n<p>Before talking about what works, let&#039;s look at the most common mistakes that scare people away or don&#039;t spark interest:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>&quot;Hey how&#039;s it going?&quot;<\/strong> \u2013 Too generic. It shows laziness and doesn\u2019t make you want to respond.<\/li>\n<li><strong>\u201cHi, I\u2019ve been missing\u201d<\/strong> \u2013 Besides being boring, it\u2019s clich\u00e9 and doesn\u2019t make sense at first glance.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Message copied or pasted<\/strong> \u2013 You can tell right away. It shows a lack of authenticity.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Invasive physical comments<\/strong> \u2013 Avoid forced or sexualized compliments right off the bat.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>What WORKS in the first message<\/h3>\n<p>Now yes! Here are some approaches that really increase the chances of starting a good conversation:<\/p>\n<h4>1. Comment on the profile<\/h4>\n<p>It shows that you are genuinely interested. Example:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cI saw that you like indie music\u2026 have you been to any notable shows?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h4>2. Light and creative humor<\/h4>\n<p>A well-placed joke breaks the ice. Example:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cIf we were a fictional couple in a movie, would it be a romantic comedy or a psychological thriller?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h4>3. Creative question<\/h4>\n<p>Asking a fun or unusual question can be surprising. Example:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cDo you prefer cold pizza for breakfast or ice cream for dinner?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h4>4. Reference to something in common<\/h4>\n<p>If the app shows you common interests or tastes, use this to your advantage:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cDo you also love trips to the beach? Do you already have a favorite destination?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3>Golden tip: always personalize<\/h3>\n<p>Generic messages seem automatic. A personalized detail already shows effort and attention. Even a simple sentence can have an impact if it is connected to the person&#039;s profile.<\/p>\n<h3>Quick Summary<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>\u274c Avoid \u201chi, how are you?\u201d and empty compliments<\/li>\n<li>\u2705 Comment on something on the person&#039;s profile<\/li>\n<li>\ud83d\ude02 Use light and authentic humor<\/li>\n<li>\ud83c\udfaf Ask unusual questions<\/li>\n<li>\ud83d\udd0d Personalize your approach<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Conclusion<\/h3>\n<p>The first message doesn&#039;t have to be perfect \u2014 but it does have to show <strong>interest, creativity and lightness<\/strong>. With a well-thought-out approach, you already get ahead and greatly increase the chances of a fluid conversation.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Final tip:<\/strong> Imagine you\u2019re talking to someone in person. What would you say to break the ice? Take that to the app \u2014 and be yourself!<\/p>\n<h3>Explore more<\/h3>\n<p>Continue in category <strong>Tips<\/strong> of <strong>DateMobs<\/strong> to learn how to better engage in matches and turn conversations into real encounters.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Deu match? Agora \u00e9 a hora de brilhar na conversa. Veja como mandar bem logo de in\u00edcio e evitar o famoso &#8220;v\u00e1cuo&#8221;. Introdu\u00e7\u00e3o Voc\u00ea deslizou, deu match e&#8230; agora? A primeira mensagem \u00e9 o momento-chave para transformar aquele match em uma conversa real. E acredite: come\u00e7ar bem pode fazer toda a diferen\u00e7a entre um papo &#8230; <a title=\"First Message: What to Say (and What Not to Say) When Matching\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/first-message-what-to-say-and-what-not-to-say-when-matching\/\" aria-label=\"Read more about First Message: What to Say (and What Not to Say) When Matching\">read more<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":894,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-893","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dicas"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/893","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=893"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/893\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":895,"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/893\/revisions\/895"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/894"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=893"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=893"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datemobs.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=893"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}