Deu match? Agora é a hora de brilhar na conversa. Veja como mandar bem logo de início e evitar o famoso “vácuo”.
Introduction
Você deslizou, deu match e… agora? A primeira mensagem é o momento-chave para transformar aquele match em uma conversa real. E acredite: começar bem pode fazer toda a diferença entre um papo que engata e um que morre ali mesmo.
In this article, you will discover what works (and what doesn't) when starting a conversation on dating apps.
What NOT to say in the first message
Before talking about what works, let's look at the most common mistakes that scare people away or don't spark interest:
- “Oi, tudo bem?” – Too generic. It shows laziness and doesn’t make you want to respond.
- “Oi sumida” – Besides being boring, it’s cliché and doesn’t make sense at first glance.
- Message copied or pasted – You can tell right away. It shows a lack of authenticity.
- Invasive physical comments – Avoid forced or sexualized compliments right off the bat.
What WORKS in the first message
Now yes! Here are some approaches that really increase the chances of starting a good conversation:
1. Comment on the profile
It shows that you are genuinely interested. Example:
“Vi que você curte música indie… já foi em algum show marcante?”
2. Light and creative humor
A well-placed joke breaks the ice. Example:
“If we were a fictional couple in a movie, would it be a romantic comedy or a psychological thriller?”
3. Creative question
Asking a fun or unusual question can be surprising. Example:
“Do you prefer cold pizza for breakfast or ice cream for dinner?”
4. Reference to something in common
If the app shows you common interests or tastes, use this to your advantage:
“Do you also love trips to the beach? Do you already have a favorite destination?”
Golden tip: always personalize
Generic messages seem automatic. A personalized detail already shows effort and attention. Even a simple sentence can have an impact if it is connected to the person's profile.
Quick Summary
- ❌ Avoid “hi, how are you?” and empty compliments
- ✅ Comment on something on the person's profile
- 😂 Use light and authentic humor
- 🎯 Ask unusual questions
- 🔍 Personalize your approach
Conclusion
The first message doesn't have to be perfect — but it does have to show interest, creativity and lightness. With a well-thought-out approach, you already get ahead and greatly increase the chances of a fluid conversation.
Final tip: Imagine you’re talking to someone in person. What would you say to break the ice? Take that to the app — and be yourself!
Explore more
Continue in category Tips of DateMobs to learn how to better engage in matches and turn conversations into real encounters.
